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Progress is Not a Straight Line

When it comes to making a big change in our lives, we often demand perfection from ourselves. We expect to hit the mark 100% of the time, or we feel like a failure.

Let’s use weight loss as an example. It's easy to fixate on the scale, and if the number does not go down according to your expectations (and sometimes it won't), do you feel like you're failing?


Walk through a scenario with me. You’ve been “good”, you’re following your diet, getting on the scale and feeling rewarded by the number going down. Then it stops. The number won’t budge. Or worse, it goes up. What does that do to your day?


Do you:

  • Freak out?

  • Promise to eat nothing but celery and carrot sticks?

  • Go back to bed and pull the covers over your head?

  • Indulge in all of your forbidden foods, since “it’s not working anyway”

There are so many ways to measure progress, besides that one metric, the number on the scale. What if you could stop labeling that number as “good” or “bad”? What if you could just note it as data, information, a basis for future decisions.


Detaching emotion from the number on the scale is HUGE progress!Here’s why. When your weight determines your self-worth, by default you de-value everything else. You lose sight of all the progress, all the victories, all the things you love about yourself and your life. It all gets run through one filter- Did I lose weight or not?


If you made choices that improved your nutrition, energized your body, and made you feel better – THAT is progress! Feeling better is fantastic! Fueling your body with whole foods changes your future! Moving your muscles makes you stronger, more flexible, more agile.


Acknowledging all of these ways of progressing changes the whole picture, doesn’t it? Here’s an exercise to try. Every day, write down your progress. What did you do that felt good, that felt like it moved you to where you want to be. Did you stay hydrated? Did you take a walk? Did you rest when you needed it? Did you treat yourself? Did you connect with a friend? Did you make someone feel super-loved? Did you try something new?


You made progress today, I know you did! Write it down every day, and begin to see what shifts.


Hey, here's another idea. Come on over to our private FACEBOOK GROUP, and share something from your progress list. You might help someone else find their progress!

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